Thank you Julia, your Top Tip is so relevant to me today as I have just come back from my first therapy session six and a half years after my youngest son took his own life. I thought I had been doing more or less alright until fairly recently when I have found myself feeling more and more overwhelmed. What I most appreciated today, apart from being able to talk about everything, was her recognition of how much I have been struggling and what I have been doing to cope. That feeling of being really heard and seen actually made me break down in tears with sheer gratitude and relief. I also don't think that it's a coincidence that today would have been his birthday. I always like to think he's up there watching.
Oh my gosh, Susannah! I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm happy to hear that you're going to therapy, and that you were able to feel seen and heard. It's such a gift for us to offer others, and for us to receive as well. The relief and - I think - healing that comes with just having space held, where we aren't judged or told to be other than how we are right now, is very good for us.
Elaine, that's very nice of you to say. I'm happy that you like these way I share these ideas, and glad that you're acknowledging a different approach to how you treat yourself ❤️
Dear Julia, your words of wisdom borne of your life experience & being part of others' are both comforting & reassuring! I recently returned to a second round of GriefWorks. I'd be a member (thankful for free then) after my Dad died late Feb. And I've found I needed somewhere to help me write & process again after 6 months too. This time my grief is about my ageing as well at close to 75. I think I will always need space for writing & reflection & talking too but I really enjoy my own company too! Having a substack of my own is a great place for writing "about" those feelings. A post I wrote recently was on 3 G's! Grief, Gratitude & Growth.
Thank you for all your skills & wisdom! Your books help me too!
Thank you for this … as some one in the midst of mental health crisis like I’ve never experienced post Hysterectomy. Guilt, shame and grief over my now deceased parents and our relationship has come up big time for me.
Just a note regarding substack.You really have made the most incredibly inspiring and worthwhile contribution to my family life,and of course I shall continue to follow and comment on the podcasts.However I am a true bilingual and at least half of my online activity is in my other language.I can see that other good people contribute to substack too and wish the enterprise well,but with this busy country life and arts activities,I shall have to think carefully before adding something more.
Thank you Julia, your Top Tip is so relevant to me today as I have just come back from my first therapy session six and a half years after my youngest son took his own life. I thought I had been doing more or less alright until fairly recently when I have found myself feeling more and more overwhelmed. What I most appreciated today, apart from being able to talk about everything, was her recognition of how much I have been struggling and what I have been doing to cope. That feeling of being really heard and seen actually made me break down in tears with sheer gratitude and relief. I also don't think that it's a coincidence that today would have been his birthday. I always like to think he's up there watching.
Oh my gosh, Susannah! I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm happy to hear that you're going to therapy, and that you were able to feel seen and heard. It's such a gift for us to offer others, and for us to receive as well. The relief and - I think - healing that comes with just having space held, where we aren't judged or told to be other than how we are right now, is very good for us.
Beautifully put Julia 😊
Thank you!
Really lovely words Julia. Just what I needed to read today. x
Happy to hear that Tina. Thank you for reading :D
Your advice has comforted me, and I acknowledge I need to be gentle on myself. Your words are so beautifully nuanced and thoughtful.
Elaine, that's very nice of you to say. I'm happy that you like these way I share these ideas, and glad that you're acknowledging a different approach to how you treat yourself ❤️
Dear Julia, your words of wisdom borne of your life experience & being part of others' are both comforting & reassuring! I recently returned to a second round of GriefWorks. I'd be a member (thankful for free then) after my Dad died late Feb. And I've found I needed somewhere to help me write & process again after 6 months too. This time my grief is about my ageing as well at close to 75. I think I will always need space for writing & reflection & talking too but I really enjoy my own company too! Having a substack of my own is a great place for writing "about" those feelings. A post I wrote recently was on 3 G's! Grief, Gratitude & Growth.
Thank you for all your skills & wisdom! Your books help me too!
Thank you for this … as some one in the midst of mental health crisis like I’ve never experienced post Hysterectomy. Guilt, shame and grief over my now deceased parents and our relationship has come up big time for me.
Just a note regarding substack.You really have made the most incredibly inspiring and worthwhile contribution to my family life,and of course I shall continue to follow and comment on the podcasts.However I am a true bilingual and at least half of my online activity is in my other language.I can see that other good people contribute to substack too and wish the enterprise well,but with this busy country life and arts activities,I shall have to think carefully before adding something more.