Letting Go of Perfection

Learning to Live from the Inside Out

As we begin a new week, I want to offer you a thought that’s helped me—and many of the people I work with—when we find ourselves caught in the grip of perfectionism or the constant striving to be “better,” more lovable, more worthy.

So often, we evaluate ourselves from the outside in. We look to others for validation. We measure our worth by how much we achieve, how we compare, how well we’re doing—on the surface. And when we feel we’re falling short, we criticise ourselves. Harshly.

But real self-worth doesn’t come from the outside. It comes from the inside out.

Inside each of us is an innate value—something that doesn’t need to be earned or proved. It’s the part of us that knows we are enough. That we are lovable. That we deserve connection and compassion simply by being human.

When we live from this inside-out place, we’re less at the mercy of the “shitty committee” (that inner chorus of criticism and comparison), and more in touch with our truth—gentle, grounded, and real.

A few thoughts to carry with you this week:

• Notice where you're looking from. Is your sense of self coming from within, or are you relying on external approval?
  

• Connect with your core. Pause and ask yourself, “What do I really need right now?” Listen with kindness.
  

• Treat yourself like someone you love. Would you speak to a friend the way you sometimes speak to yourself?
  

• Let go of ‘perfect’. Aim for ‘real’ instead. It's connection, not perfection, that truly heals.
  

So this week, I invite you to come home to yourself. To look inward. To remember that you are already enough—right now, as you are.

Love,
Julia x